In 1985 Dr.
Richard Gardner (M.D.) coined the
phrase "parental alienation
syndrome (PAS)".
Dr. Gardner defines PAS as "a
childhood disorder that arises
almost exclusively in the context
of child-custody disputes."
Primarily it is the child’s
campaign of denigration against a
parent without justification.
What is
unique from Dr. Gardner's perspective is that it
results from the combination of parental programming
or brainwashing and the child’s vilification of the
target parent. There is now discussion that is
equating PAS as a form of child abuse. This
perspective can have some far-reaching implications
for both the legal and mental health communities.
There is no PAS when true
parental abuse, neglect or the witnessing of
abuse, verbal or physical, is present. The child’s
animosity may be justified, therefore, explaining
the child's hostile behavior as a consequence of PAS
is not applicable.
PAS is only applicable when the
target parent is innocent and has not exhibited
abusive or neglectful behavior; or any behavior that
might warrant the child's vilification. Rather, in
typical PAS cases the victimized parent is
considered to have provided normal and loving
parenting. At worst they exhibited minimal
impairments in parental skills. PAS situations
typically demonstrate exaggerated weaknesses and
deficiencies. When genuine abuse does exist, then
the child’s rejecting behavior is warranted and PAS
is not applicable.
Parental Alienation (PA), however, refers to a
variety of behaviors that may be associated with a
child’s alienation from a parent. Children may
become alienated because of physical abuse, sexual
abuse or both. Emotional abuse by a parent may
result in a child’s alienation. Children may also
become alienated as because of parental abandonment.
Ongoing parental disharmony, especially in the
presence of physical violence, may lead children to
become alienated. Gardner indicates that children
may become alienated because of behavior exhibited
by a parent that would be alienating to most people,
e.g., narcissism, alcoholism, and antisocial
behavior. Impaired or dysfunctional parenting can
also cause children’s alienation. A child may be
angry at the parent who initiated the divorce,
believing they are solely to blame for the divorce
situation. There are many other parental behaviors
that can produce a child’s alienation, but none of
them can be considered PAS.
Gardner stated that PAS is characterized by a
cluster of symptoms that usually appear together in
the child or children. The number and severity of
these symptoms are contingent upon the severity of
the PAS. The more severe, the more symptoms
observed. These symptoms are:
1. A campaign of denigration
2. Weak, absurd, or frivolous rationalizations for
the deprecation
3. Lack of ambivalence
4. The “independent-thinker” phenomenon
5. Reflexive support of the alienating parent in the
parental conflict
6. Absence of guilt over cruelty to and exploitation
of the alienated parent
7. The presence of borrowed scenarios
8. Spread of the animosity to the friends and
extended family of the alienated parent.
Gardner asserts that typically children who suffer
with PAS will exhibit most, if not all, of the above
symptoms. This is especially true for moderate and
severe cases. It is noted that with mild cases,
however, sometimes fewer than the eight symptoms
will be observed and to a milder extent.
Why is PAS being considered child abuse? The
potential impact of PAS on a child’s life can be
devastating. Included among the effects are an
impaired ability to establish and maintain
relationships, their self image or self esteem, the
evolution of guilt, anxiety, depression over their
role in destroying their relationship with a
previously loved parent. There are other
consequences as well.
Yet there are those, both in the legal and mental
health communities, who disavow any possibility that
PAS even exists! Some have gone to great lengths to
discredit Dr. Gardner and his theory. At the present
time, however, PAS is being considered for inclusion
into the DSM-V. We will know for sure sometime in
2010.